Deciphering the flirting cues women use is an important skill to develop. This will allow us to capitalize on a woman’s reaction and find out if she is attracted to us.

One type of flirting signal that women use to show that they are attracted to a man is what is called the flirtation. validation and approval.

Imagine this —

You’re hanging out with Kobe Bryant one afternoon. Just two guys shooting hoops. So you guys decide to play best of 5. You beat Kobe 4-1. Kobe is flabbergasted! He looks at you and says, “Man, never tell my coach about this. I could be out of a job.” Flattering, right?

Now what about this situation?

You’re shooting hoops with your 10-year-old younger brother and you beat him 10-0. Or 20-0. You blew him away with your basketball skills. How you feel?

In the first example, you were playing against Kobe Bryant, a living basketball legend. Having him acknowledge that you’re good at basketball makes you feel incredibly good because you think so highly of him. Kobe Bryant thinks you are better than him! How cool is that?

Contrast that with the second situation where you hit your little brother. In that scenario, you didn’t feel any noticeable sense of accomplishment because you don’t see your brother as having a high social value. So, as you can see, his perception of his social worth makes a difference.

The same principle at work between men and women. If a man is seen as having high social value, then a woman will unconsciously seek validation and approval from her. Men who recognize this will be able to take advantage of the validation and approval technique to make a woman fall even more in love with him.

So how exactly does it work when it comes to attracting women? There are two things you must do:

1. Avoid seeking validation and approval from women.

At least not during their first few interactions. Remember that at the beginning of the relationship, you want to be perceived as high value. It is your approval that must be sought and not the other way around. In this relationship, you are Kobe Bryant and she is the equivalent of your little brother.

two. Pay attention to the moments when the woman seeks your validation and approval..

If you recognize the signs when a woman is seeking your approval, then you can either validate her to cheer her up or withhold your validation to tease her, all depending on how your relationship is progressing.

Here are some examples of what women will do when trying to seek your validation and approval:

• She asks you a question with the main goal of fishing for compliments. For example, “I really want to apply for an internship at this great company. But they’re only accepting 10 people and I don’t know if I’ll be able to do it. What do you think?”
• She asks your permission to do something for which she doesn’t need permission to get your attention. For example, “Do you think she should go buy the movie tickets now or later?”

If you spot these examples or other examples of women seeking validation and approval, then you are 99% sure that you are perceived as having high social value. If he is perceived as high value, her chances of sexually attracting you become easier and more likely.