It is increasingly evident that the key to leadership is servanthood. This is counterintuitive. For example, a leader like a president is constantly seen being waited on hand and foot by the secret service and other government entities. But in reality his lives are rigid and hard, facing the burden of fixing an economy or making decisions about when to go to war. If that’s not enough; all public speech holds the threat of assassination; and errors give way to crucifixion. Would either of you want to be Bush right now? No. And on top of all that, the constant stress of the presidency can take 10 years off the life of a human being! The president assumes all these risks; for our own good! The truth is that a president is a servant who serves everyone in his country, including other government officials. This example is blatantly obvious, but in everyday situations we don’t realize that leaders are serving. I’m not talking about delegated authorities; I’m talking about the leaders of your social circles; like that funny girl at your work that everyone listens to and likes to be around; They like them because they cater to the most people! Note: This is a Biblical principle.

Leaders are forced to always add value. Adding value isn’t easy or that much fun (value is whatever it adds to your day). And it’s also risky! Most people feel much better sitting down and having value added to them by others; Never leave your comfort zone. However, a person who is in bondage (leader) reaches out and adds value to other people at the expense of their own feelings. This is selflessness. Disinterest is an effect of being sure. Once there is no need to worry about yourself; the natural inspiration to help others is born. Social success is near. However, most of the people who yearn for social betterment; lose your success; because their attention is on themselves. The only real social improvements you should want to make are the ones that answer the questions “how can I bring more value to other people?” and “how can I help as many people as I can?” Giving up all your own selfish desires is the most important personal improvement you can do.

Be encouraged in everything you do!

The first thing we must accept is that people are not as logical as we think. 80% of an interaction is automated, most of what you say or do is based on past experience, only 20% of what you do is thought. Which means that we are almost purely emotional beings. So put on your chem jackets and get ready to manipulate emotional and chemical reactions (emotions are chemicals).

Many guys assume that providing value is simply being overly optimistic and they hurl lots of genuine compliments. While this is a big part, remember the 60, 30, 10 rule. Which means that what you say only accounts for 10% of the interaction. 60% is body language, so we’ll address this first.

When you’re around someone, your brain creates all kinds of emotions and releases chemicals into your body. So before this gets too complicated, let me explain the concept of duplication. People are just mirrors of what is around them, you have probably heard the phrase “I am a product of my environment”.

Although it is commonly used to sum up someone’s entire life, it is just as true for everyday interaction. All you have to do is display body language that demonstrates the feelings you want others to feel when you are around. For example, when someone smiles at you, it’s almost impossible not to smile back, especially if the smile is genuine. From a biological point of view, every time someone smiles, serotonin is released in their body. If a man walks with his shoulders back and chest out, he shows that he feels safe and therefore makes others feel the same.

It is impossible to recognize a newcomer without matching their body language. This opinion is proven when you hear someone say, to a nervous friend, “Calm down man, you’re making me nervous.” Therefore, nervous energy is rejected and never reflected (nervousness is the essence of uncool). There are an infinite number of things you can do to steal value from a group, and I won’t attempt to list them here. As a general rule, learn to feel safe wherever you are and whatever you do. Literally going to bars, clubs, etc. and learn to feel safe, for a stubborn guy like me, i just learned to reject nervous energy. Bottom line, if you can put people at ease using your own body language, you’ll be ahead of most!

Now let’s take a look at tone, tone is also a highly influential way to cheer people up. For example, have you ever been to a party and a really loud funny guy walks in? Everyone else usually shuts up and gives way to that guy and hangs on to his every word. Now, this guy might be funny, but he’s usually in mediocre humor, what makes everything he says ten times louder is the volume of his voice. If you really pay attention, you’ll notice that some people are already laughing before I even get to the end (before you get too far, realize that humor isn’t the only way to socialize, although it does build human bonding). . Loudness usually puts everyone else in a more relaxed beta mindset and heightens the emotions of the people around you. For example, if you were celebrating your team winning the NBA Finals, would you reply to a random guy trying to tell you something if his voice volume was low? No, because to answer him means you have to drop to his level first, it would be almost impossible for you to turn around and keep shouting and answering him simultaneously. What would happen if you lowered your voice and energy level to respond to him? You would lose your emotional level and then you would struggle to bring your emotional level back up to celebrate more.

Here’s a volume exercise you can pull from my personal repertoire; is called “ABC Yell!” The volume is controlled by your lungs. The more capacity your lungs have, the louder you can scream and talk. The ABC SCREAM! it is to help you use the capacity you already have.
1. Inhale, then say A as loudly as you can.
2. Inhale then say B as loud as you can
3. GO to Z.
Do this for thirty minutes a day, however if you feel dizzy, don’t panic, just take a break.

The next exercise is to increase lung capacity, it’s called shake your ass and do cardio!
When I was in high school I participated in cross country through this I gained 99% lung capacity. (I’m so cool ha!)

Another attractive quality in your spokesperson is tone. A deeper shade is considered more attractive than a higher shade on both men and women. Also a deep tone is more leading. People will follow a deep-toned person rather than a high-tone person. In fact, if you watch movies, you’ll notice that the comic relief is often the most high-tone person.

Pitch exercise (no cool name this time)
Grasp his neck with your left hand, just over his windpipe. Next, place your right hand on the lower region of your chest. Now um, take note of where you feel the vibration. If it’s in your throat then you speak from the back of your throat along with 70% percent of other people. Now focus on bringing the vibration from your neck to the upper part of your stomach, you can do this by widening your windpipe muscles. If you vibrate it in your stomach for another 30 minutes a day, you’ll start talking like Barry White in no time. ha ha!

~Written by Brandon Swain (Trojan)