So what do you do when you find out your husband was on a porn site? What would you do if you found out that he was on a porn site and was chatting with a naked pornstar online? Would you consider that cheating in a marriage? After all, there is no contact. There is little he is talking about intimately that would make it an emotional affair. Read on to find out when the line is crossed.

Initial reaction is that a husband is cheating

I’m pretty sure if you’re a woman reading this you’re saying “hell yeah, it’s cheating.” And maybe you are right. After all, there’s another woman involved, and uh … she’s naked. But let’s think about this for a second. Is something really happening here that is affecting you as a wife besides him looking at a naked girl, something he could do on cable every night of the week … (not that I know that;)

Where is the mistake and why you are not sure if your husband is cheating on you

Here’s the deal. Every marriage must have a line drawn. I’m not a big fan of constantly talking about problems. In fact, if you read my website, you would know that it is not a very smart thing to do and why. But when it comes to boundaries and lines in the sand of what makes each spouse comfortable cheating, and what is too much and what is allowed, this talk needs to happen ASAP. In fact, it should be done before the wedding … before even getting married … but if not, it should be done soon.

Why Porn Is Probably Not A Reason To Worry About Your Husband Cheating

Okay, if you never got to talk about it, and your husband likes to dabble in porn every now and then, you really shouldn’t worry about him cheating. YES … if there is no physical contact involved, or no intimacy with the porn stars. Chatting is not really intimacy so to speak … but it is playing with fire. It’s basically blurring the lines.

But the fact is, when a man participates in this, it is usually a lot of quackery and a lot of just acting out a fantasy. And I hate to say it, but it’s natural since men are ultra-visual creatures. We like to look at naked women, and it is programmed in us to do so. But on the other hand, if it’s hurting our spouses when we do it, then we shouldn’t do it.

What a husband should do instead

Believe it or not, my advice for a marriage in which this cheating issue has come up, when it comes to pornography, is that the man should hide it better and should not do anything stupid about what he is going to be tempted to do. take part. into something that will lead to a possible physical or emotional bond.

What a wife should do instead

For a woman, I suggest that you immediately start telling your husband where your line is, while allowing him a bit of rope to explore, but not enough to hang himself.

It is up to you as a couple to set the boundaries and draw the lines. Then, and only then, can you really avoid having to ask the question of whether porn is cheating again.