A hard fact of life is that relationships can break down. Most lesbians go through such an experience at least once and unfortunately you have found yourself in this painful situation. Even though you have been dumped, you still care about your ex. Things may look bad, but there is still hope for their relationship if she takes the right steps. Here are three critical things to do if you want to get your ex girlfriend back.

1. Keep your mouth shut. If there is going to be any chance of reconciliation, you should watch your tongue and not badmouth your ex girlfriend to other people. The lesbian community can be small and intertwined. Realize that you never know who is friends with whom. Anything negative that you say about your ex lover has the potential to come back to her. Gossip spreads fast!

Reserve your emotional release only for your closest friends, people you can absolutely trust to keep your secrets private. With anyone else, be diplomatic and vague about the details of your breakup. Resist the temptation to pour out your sadness and anger on anyone within six feet. While your listeners may seem sympathetic, complaining about how terrible your ex-girlfriend is doesn’t make you look very good either. Don’t say anything that might damage your lover’s reputation. Be nice to their friends if you run into them, and don’t ask mutual friends to take sides in battle. Act classy, ​​and you’ll have a better chance of reconciling with your ex-girlfriend.

2. Avoid places you are likely to go, temporarily. Depending on your circumstances, this can be difficult, especially if you liked to go out to clubs together or shared hobbies and activities. You may think that it is not fair to have to change your routines. But staying away from your ex as much as practical serves several purposes.

If you’re feeling hurt and angry, seeing her could trigger a storm of emotions and lead you to do or say something you’ll regret. The last thing you want is to make a bad situation worse, right? Minimizing contact also gives your ex a chance to sense your absence and even start to miss you.

3. Make a plan to get your ex back. Although you may feel hopeless right now, all is not lost. Many lesbians can reconcile after a separation. Keep calm and think things through. Believe it or not, there are entire books written on the very topic of getting your ex lover back. Getting back with an ex is basically a matter of using the right psychological tools in the right order.

Most importantly, having a strategy will help you clear your head and make you feel more positive about the future. And that will definitely put you on the right path towards a possible reconciliation with the woman you still care about.