An often neglected but powerful underlying cause of heartbreak and imbalance in life is time. Time is an ephemeral concept, but it is also a hard fact that affects our lives in a ubiquitous way. Knowing this and doing nothing about it invites all kinds of difficulties.
How often have we heard in our lives or those of others the complaint that there is simply not enough time, or in the relationship: “You don’t have enough time for me”, or in families: “You never spend time playing with children? , “or at work:” You must do more and put in more hours to earn more and achieve more. Be diligent! “
Everything takes time. If you want to do something right, it takes more time. If you want to take shortcuts, it is not worth it, because it is a poor job.
Symbolic time is everywhere: in the man-made world: clocks, clocks, clock towers, neon signs with time readouts, telephones with digital readouts, time on your PC, on TV, DVDs and CDs that show time periods; And in the natural world – morning, noon, afternoon, evening, night – our world is dotted with reminders of the weather.
Reminders, reminders! I must (if there is enough time), I did not make it to the bank (because there was not enough time), I will (if I find the time). This imaginary and yet factual lack of time (how come we run out of time when all we have is time?) Causes us stress, contraction, nervousness, fear, illness, irritation and neurosis.
But time is an adversary to which we will eventually and inevitably succumb, when we are finally left without it at the end of our lives.
So while we’re still here, let’s take it seriously. very serious. This is my advice and it comes dearly through deep consideration not only of my own difficulties, but of many other people with this perennial and insidious subject.
In a disciplined way, divide your waking life into three parts. His waking life consists of approximately 16 hours a day (the other 8 must be devoted to sleep). Consider how this time passes. You only have so many hours a day, over a year, for the rest of your life. So, use them wisely, spend them wisely, and let them bring balance to your life.
Divide it like this:
1. Time for you: time with oneself and for oneself is essential for inner well-being. Balance and cultivate peace and tranquility, and bring you back to the feeling of being. It reminds you to care about yourself and puts you in touch with yourself, your body, mind, feelings, emotions, life path, life evaluation, your energy. In fact, there is so much to keep in touch with that only the dumb man or woman would ignore it. Hardly anyone honors time with themselves enough, but you You can do this by taking yourself seriously and realizing that without this exercise essential to your well-being, self-esteem, and happiness, every interaction, encounter, and relationship you have in the outside world is fundamentally flawed. You will relate to the world, with others and deal with life circumstances much better if you first take time with yourself, to attend to yourself and the needs of your soul, and be aware of your needs and desires internal, your deep innate need to attend. yourself.
two. Time for others: everyone has a relationship, interrelationships, interdependence, others in their life. We must attend to these relationships that give us the opportunity to care about someone, something, and something other than ourselves. So we have to spend the right amount of time on this search. Caring implies depth, but first it implies time. Simply taking the time to be with someone communicates that they are important and worth your time. Doing things for others with genuine consideration is good for our soul, spending time with them and letting our concern for ourselves fade refreshes the spirit. A life without love is a life full of pain. So value this opportunity because it is precious, one of the most precious aspects of life that exists, and honor that.
3. Finally, duty and responsibility: We must all eat! There is a Zen saying: “There is no work. There is no food.” It’s true, of course, and we instinctively and intuitively know the correctness of this adage. Working for our livelihood, not only for the things that make us feel comfortable, but for the soul food that it provides us, working and absorbing ourselves in activity, working and losing ourselves in industry and action is good for the inner life and the interior life. wellness Our physical bodies are made to move and strain, stretch and load; our minds to create and solve problems and our feelings and emotions to be committed, strong and passionate about what we do. We should spend a third of our waking life at work, which is why it is so important that we realize the purpose of our soul, what we want. should be doing.
Consider the three-way time division. Then, if you are drawn to it, start by noticing how you divide your time. Then gradually bring it into balance and watch the transformation in your life.
