One night a (generic) man had a dream, and in the dream an angel comes and takes him for a walk through heaven and hell. They visit hell first. Hell, it turns out, surprisingly, is a huge banquet hall, with tables filled with all the food and drink one could wish for. The people at the tables, however, are angry, frustrated, rude, desperate, depressed, stressed, thin, emaciated, and wasted. The cutlery in hell is about four feet long and can only be picked up by one end. Therefore, all these people, who are only interested in feeding, cannot do it, they cannot handle a four-foot utensil in such a way that they can put the other end in their mouth.

They leave hell and then they go to visit heaven.

It turns out that heaven, surprisingly, is also a huge banquet hall, with tables filled with all the food and drink you could want. People in heaven are cheerful, happy, content, engaged, and have a healthy sense of well-being. The cutlery is exactly the same as in hell, four feet long and can only be picked up at one end. The difference? Here in the sky, people stretch out on the table and feed each other.

In every social system, in every work environment, everyone, yes, everyone, contributes openly or covertly, actively or passively, consciously or unconsciously and, most importantly, for “the good of the order” or, to the reverse, for “sick of the organization”, but everyone, that is, you, contributes in one way or another.

What you believe about yourself, how you view others, and what you believe about others all contribute to your creating heaven or hell in your workplace in some way, shape, or form.

How do you live life in your organization (or, if you dare, in your family or relationship)?

So is your life at work focused on feeding yourself?

To consider:

Is your life at work “all about me”? Are your relationships at work based on a “What’s in it for me?” motivates? Are you a bully, gossip or guilty? Do you need to coerce, dominate, control and be authoritarian? Are people expendable in your “take no prisoners” approach to project management or meeting deadlines? Do you keep information? Do you constantly criticize the behavior of others? Are your only reasons for working based on promotions, raises, corner offices, and bonuses? Are you addicted to work? Do you sacrifice integrity, ethics and morals for money or prestige? Do you show favoritism? Do you treat others as “stupid”? Do you dismiss requests, emails, and questions from others? Do you avoid responsibility for your actions and behaviors? Are you concentrating only on your own immediate tasks and responsibilities? Do you avoid risks and conflicts? Does he display bias or prejudice? Are you distrustful, disrespectful, and uncooperative? Do you have hidden agendas? are you reserved? Do you make more statements than you ask questions? Do you have irrational thoughts and emotional reactivity? Are you inflexible, selfish, arrogant and selfish?

However, is your life at work focused on feeding others?

To consider:

Do you encourage and inspire the people you work with? Do you live with integrity and authenticity at work? Do people consider you decent, honest, and trustworthy? Do you take responsibility for your actions, behaviors, and mistakes? Do you think more about supporting others than what happens to others? Do you treat others with decency and respect? Do you feel that everyone has the right to sit at the table? Are listening and coaching hallmarks of your leadership or management style? Do you show confidence in your direct reports? Do you show empathy and concern for the welfare of others? Are you energetic, optimistic, enthusiastic, and optimistic? Do you encourage others to experience work-life balance? Are you aware of yourself and do you own your emotions? Do you take time for self-reflection and encourage others to do so as well? Do you lead and manage with your heart and your head? Do you believe in yourself? Do you live the values ​​of your organization? Do you encourage others to contribute their thoughts, ideas, and wisdom? Do you treat others like adults? Do you maintain open and honest communication and provide honest and timely feedback? Do you praise in public and deal in private with problems? Are you fair in your dealings with others? Do you act as a facilitator and guide? Are you an advocate for others? You are humble. Do you initiate conversations and then make an effort to understand before being understood? Are you comfortable with the conflict? Do you know your own limitations? Do you understand the challenges people face and what frustrates them? Does it encourage collaboration? Does it promote the exchange of information? Does it point to people’s strengths? Do you keep your commitments and keep your promises?

So some questions for self-reflection are:

Do you contribute to your own experience or that of your colleagues from hell in your workplace? If so, what story or stories do you make up to rationalize / justify your attitudes and actions to allow this to happen?

Are you contributing to your own experience or that of your colleagues from heaven in your workplace? What attitudes and actions support your contribution?