Yes of course! If you clicked through this article hoping to find magic words to make someone instantly fall in love with you or some kind of love spell to cast on that not-so-interested guy/man or girl/woman, I’m sorry to disappoint you. you.
I’m old school on this. You can’t rush love. No, you just have to wait. Love is not easy. It is a game of give and take. You have to trust, give it time.
But how long does it take someone to fall in love? And at what point do you go, “Oh my gosh! I can’t believe this is happening to me!”
Personally, I don’t think any “love expert” can tell you with 100% certainty how long it will take for someone to fall in love. If someone tells you that he knows exactly how to make someone love you forever in 30 or even 90 minutes, get a hint. It’s Kool-Aid!
There is no magic number of minutes, weeks, months or years for when people fall in love. If we are talking about attraction based on sexual chemistry, then scientists claim that it takes a man only 8.2 seconds to “fall head over heels in love”; and a woman 15 seconds to decide if she wants to fall in love or not.
Explain why I fell in love twice today: at the supermarket! One of the men asked me to marry him after just 60 seconds of meeting me. [O! Please. Don’t get any ideas, I am kidding. This woman is taken!]
The point I’m trying to make here is that we fell in love with someone we’ve known for a while. The process of “falling in love” occurs in stages for most of us (with the exception of the emotionally immature or infirm who fall in love with almost anyone, and too quickly).
The first stage of falling in love is the one I just talked about above; one based on sexual chemistry. Keep in mind that “sexual” is not necessarily about “sex,” but about the energy that drives sexual attraction. The second stage is when we realize how unique and special the person is; and the third is when we have convinced ourselves that we are happy and more fulfilled with that person in our lives.
Most men stay too long (and some even get stuck) in the first stage of falling in love, while women tend to merge stages two and three into one, making it seem like women fall in love in only two stages. . I guess the biological clock has something to do with it.
But even if no one can say with 100% certainty how long it will take for someone to fall in love, there are words and other signs that tell you that a man or woman is falling for you.
Most people think that when the person says those three magic words “I love you”, then you know for sure that they are in love. I wrote an article titled “I love you” – How soon is too soon?” and what I’m saying in summary is that every man or woman has their own different time to say “I love you” to a new person, while others prefer wait a while to be 150% sure that they really love the person they are saying these words to.And for some people saying “I love you” is like saying “thank you” or “goodbye”. “doesn’t always mean someone is falling in love or in love with you.
I have asked some of my clients to tell me when it is “they knew for sure” and here are some of their responses.
1. I found out when we started calling each other every day. But more than that, I could hear in her voice that I was the one she wanted to share all her news with first.
2. We were talking about some areas where we felt incredibly separate. She looked at me and said, “I’m so afraid that our relationship won’t work out or go further. I don’t want to lose you!”
3. When D left some toiletries at my house, I had an “aha” moment. I didn’t know where we stood at the time, it was just a sign to me that things were getting a little more serious.
4. I was very interested in her, but she did not give me the time of day. I felt like she was out of my league. Four years later, we were hanging out with some friends we’d both known since our sophomore year. They began to make fun of us, said that we always looked like a couple. She leaned in and kissed me on the lips. He was very passionate. I knew it there and then. She is a shy person by nature, she never would have if she didn’t love me.
5. I honestly don’t know when I knew for sure. Mr. knew that he had a past before we met. Every man who has ever loved me, including my father, has abused and abandoned me. M. does everything possible to assure me that he will never leave me. And I believe him with all my heart.
6. We didn’t have big agendas and neither of us was in a rush to get our relationship anywhere. We focus a lot on getting to know each other, spending time together, and talking. One day we both looked at each other and we knew. It’s like when you open the door and you know you’re home.
7. It was when he told me that he had reserved space for my things in his closet. That told me that he was comfortable sharing his space with me.
8. Valentine’s Day. I asked him if there was anything he wanted to say or hear that wasn’t being said. She said “I love you”. I said “I love you more”. Neither of us had said that to the other and we had been together for over two years.
Simply put, there is no single time period for someone to fall in love. Some people “know” that the person is right for them as soon as they see that person (love at first sight). Some of these men and women who “fall in love at first sight” report feeling an inexplicable feeling of having met the person before (soul mates). That knowledge of thinking/feeling is then confirmed with more information collected after knowing the person for some time.
It would be great if we were all so lucky that someone fell in love with us at first sight, but that doesn’t happen to the vast majority of people in this world. For the rest of us, you can’t rush love. Love takes time. How long? No one can say for sure. All you can do is nurture the feeling of attraction and help the other person through the stages of being in love. How soon they can do it depends on the individual, and his problem!
