In my previous article, I discussed some of the advantages and disadvantages of being a selfish person. In this article I will take a look at the other side of the coin, the advantages and disadvantages of being a selfless person.
The advantages of being a selfless person
Most of the advantages you get from being selfless are internal benefits. It feels really good when you can help people who are in a bad situation. Sometimes the smallest action or kind word can make a big difference in someone’s life.
Another thing to consider is that by being selfless and helping others, you are accumulating good karma. For those who do not like the term karma, they can see it as simple cause and effect. If you do a lot of good, you can expect it to be returned to you. The same goes for evil, doing many evil things will catch up with you sooner or later. You reap what you sow.
Perhaps one of the best perks you can enjoy from being selfless is the opportunity to meet and associate with other selfless people. You usually won’t find selfish people volunteering their time and helping people. It is much easier to have mutually beneficial and satisfying friendships, partnerships, and relationships with people who care about you and not just themselves.
The downsides of being a selfless person
Unfortunately, being altruistic isn’t just about puppies and rainbows. You will have to deal with selfish people who take advantage of your goodness. In some cases, helping a person once will make that person expect you to do what you want, when you want. When you inevitably have to say no to them, they get very angry.
Even people who are not selfish can try to monopolize your time and energy, sometimes without knowing it. They may really enjoy your company and the good feelings it brings to them, so they want to be around you as much as possible. Usually a gentle but firm reminder that there are other people and obligations in your life will take care of this problem.
Another possible downside can come from being so selfless that you ONLY think of others and neglect your own needs. You must remember to take care of yourself so that you can continue to help others.
The bottom line
In my opinion, the advantages of being a disinterested person considerably outweigh the disadvantages. As long as you remember to stand up for yourself and take care of yourself, becoming a more selfless person will help make the world a better place.
